Shame and Development with Debbie

When our autistic and neurodivergent young people struggle and get stuck and their development slows or stalls out, there’s one thing that’s usually at the bottom of their struggles. It’s not their neurodivergent brain or their disabilities.

It’s shame-based thoughts, stories, and beliefs they’ve internalized. They might pick these up from being a neurodivergent in a neurotypical dominate culture and society. Fails, social struggles and their different developmental timeline can also lead them to beliefs shame-based things about themselves. Even all our efforts to help them can come across like we’re trying to “fix them” and therefore they must be broken.

Practicing an NDM (Neuro-developmental Mentoring™️) approach and doing the work of un-shaming can help them expand their capacity and resilience to overcome challenges and accelerate their development. Because when they un-shame themselves their more willing to try things without fear of failing overcoming them.

What You'll Learn from this Episode:

• Why all the interventions, supports, and helps might not be working.
• Why NDM (Neuro-developmental Mentoring™️) and un-shaming is so effective at removing shame-based thoughts, stories, and beliefs.
• How we might be inadvertently reinforcing their shame-based beliefs.
• How behaviors can reveal shame-based thoughts.
• How to do the work of un-shaming.

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